How to overcome gay parenting stereotypes

Please forgive this author for attempting to write about this topic despite being neither gay nor professing to own even an inclining as to what a gay parenting stereotype might be. This is why she is perhaps ideally suited to offer advice on the matter. There is only one way to parent a child and that is with love and to bestow on them the best that you have to offer.
A parenting style is unique to each couple. It is the amalgamation of what each has brought in to the relationship. In cases where there is only one parent, it is still the combination of who you were before the child entered your life and the impact of your current relationships, of both the romantic and non-romantic kind.
A person's sexual orientation is just that. Whom you opt to sleep with or be attracted to is a complex formula that has really nothing to do with your child since we are not sexually involved with the child. Nor are we in sexual competition with those that our child may later grow to be attracted to.
So, as Krishanmurti had said, you cannot control what goes on around you, as that is dictated by others. You can only die to them. This is not a physical death. It is a separation between both the good and bad that comes of your interaction with them. You just stop being guided and impacted by judgement. When they can no longer exert an influence on you, you can no longer react to what they say.
This is something like the idea of cyber-bullying. Turn off the computer and you can no longer read the hateful, intimidating messages. All of a sudden there is a healthy ignorance between what they expect you to do and what you feel needs to be done.
What strikes me as most compelling in all of this is that regardless of gay or straight, man or woman, there are so many different types of personalities. A straight couple where the woman is more dominant of the two is just as typical as an over-bearing, perhaps even emotionally abusive male spouse to his demure and long-suffering wife. It is no different from any other collection of individuals who happen to have formed a union.
All of these people, who by hook or crook have managed to become parents must now deal with an additional living soul, perhaps more, in their own right. People are people. The child is a person. Sexual orientation is not what defines a person. It should only define the part of a person that accounts for their carnal lust.